The Husband-Wife Relationship

A husband and wife must have a good relationship to sustain a satisfying marriage. There must be a strong connection between the two.

D. M. Bhebe and her husband live in western Zimbabwe, Africa where he is a pastor. They enjoy doing the Lord's work. They have three sons. D. M. is self-employed as a tax consultant.


The word "relationship" is defined as a connection, an affinity, likeness or attraction between persons. A husband and wife must have a good relationship to sustain a satisfying marriage. There must be a strong connection between the two.

After Creation, God said, "It is not good for a man to be alone." Consequently, He created Eve.

When young people are dating and they make the decision to marry, certain things happen. They give themselves unreservedly to one another. They look at marriage as the culmination and climax of their courtship experience. They feel liberated from the courtship restrictions and they look forward to possessing each other in a complete sense. These progressive developments in a loving relationship lead to a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Each partner is thoughtful of the other and the words "I love you" are said often.

Once married, the husband and wife should exercise self-control and avoid senseless quarrels. When two are united, they are blending two distinct personalities. It is important to nurture one another and not let one become dominant over the other. Communication is important and all couples must work to avoid misunderstandings that cause strife in a marriage.

Once the honeymoon is over, real life enters the picture. Job responsibilities, children and the everyday tasks that accompany life take time and energy. It is easy to neglect one another and be critical. It is important for each spouse to accept the common mistakes that happen when the other is over­whelmed with responsibilities. They must remember their love and look to God for guidance.

There once was a college student named Rosemary. She was training to become a literature teacher. While in school, she met a wonderful man who had many qualities Rosemary admired. John and Rosemary, decided to get married and Rosemary envisioned a romantic life with the man she loved.

After a while, married life didn't meet Rosemary's expectations. She found herself bored doing the household duties. She retreated into the world of fiction and spent her days reading romance novels.

Rosemary realized the reading of such fiction was not doing her any good. She was comparing her life to that of the unreal stories she was reading. She could not help but notice the contrast between her life and the lives of the novels' heroines. Rosemary was so dissatisfied with her marriage she began questioning her choice of a mate. She began to dwell on her dissatisfaction and began thinking of her life before marriage. She began to view her husband as stupid and dreary.

When Jesus was on this earth, He gave us clear advice on dealing with our fellow man. In Matthew 7:3-5, He says, "Why then do you look at the speck in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the log in your own eye? How will you say to your brother,`Please let me take that speck out of your eye' when all the time there is a log in your own eye